As an upfront disclaimer, this posting is not about straight men in porn, as they may or may not fall into the categories I'll be mentioning. That being said, I completely don't understand why gay men are so infatuated with straight men.
Personally, I've never had the least bit of interest in straight men as a simple matter of respect for them. I don't want to be with someone who isn't into me (in my personal life, I recognize it's going to happen on set... its just part of the game) Now before I go further, I do want to credit Devon Hunter for helping me realize some of these things that I hadn't even thought of.
Imagine what your supposed encounter with a straight man will be. IF you get a straight man in bed, it'll most likely be some random, drunken, or weird encounter. No straight man is going to willingly hook up with a gay man.
What might an encounter consist of? Personally, I am not down with sucking a guy off with no type of reciprocation at all. A straight guy in the real world isn't going to want to suck you back (and in the instance he does, won't know what he's doing and will end up toothing your cock)
If it came to sex, a straight guy is going to want to top you, and till treat your ass like a vagina. Now, never having had sex with a woman, I can't speak from exact experience, but I can say that by simple positioning and anatomy, fucking an ass is vastly different from fucking a vagina. On top of that, they won't know how to fuck in such a way that's enjoyable for you.
In the EXTREMELY rare event that you can get a straight boy to bottom, imagine how that's going to turn out.... tell me how much straight men know about anal hygiene? I can only imagine how messy that even will turn out to be.
I will grant you that in porn, it can be a fun fantasy, but even remember, that in porn, the scenes I've shot where there is a "straight" guy, he's always been played by a straight guy. And in my experience, the legit straight guys in porn, know how to have sex with men so these things aren't an issue.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
S&M
This past weekend I got to have my first sub experience, was... interesting. I'm intrigued to try it again. I met a guy several years ago who was big into this type of sexual encounter, and I finally agreed to let him try these things out on me.
I met him at a hotel he had booked for the event, and upon arrival, he told me to strip down naked, blindfolded me, and had me tired down to the bed. From there he continued to shout orders at me, and at one point had me pleasuring both him and his boyfriend. (no actual sex occurred, just oral sex)
It was an interesting experience, and something I'd be up to trying again. I'm not sure I want the same exact type of experience, as I can remember that my experiences at Fort Troff were different and allowed my imagination to flow with what we would do. I sometimes think that I would enjoy it more if I were able to say "lets go from this place" and allow the dom partner to take it from where I suggested to wherever it ended up working for us both.
Though perhaps, that's because to me, the dom/sub thing is all for play and not as a lifestyle. I would be interested, though, to hear from other people who are more into this type of thing to know more about what their situations are and how it works for them. I would expect its not the same for everyone.
I met him at a hotel he had booked for the event, and upon arrival, he told me to strip down naked, blindfolded me, and had me tired down to the bed. From there he continued to shout orders at me, and at one point had me pleasuring both him and his boyfriend. (no actual sex occurred, just oral sex)
It was an interesting experience, and something I'd be up to trying again. I'm not sure I want the same exact type of experience, as I can remember that my experiences at Fort Troff were different and allowed my imagination to flow with what we would do. I sometimes think that I would enjoy it more if I were able to say "lets go from this place" and allow the dom partner to take it from where I suggested to wherever it ended up working for us both.
Though perhaps, that's because to me, the dom/sub thing is all for play and not as a lifestyle. I would be interested, though, to hear from other people who are more into this type of thing to know more about what their situations are and how it works for them. I would expect its not the same for everyone.
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Same-Sex Marriage
Today, I've spent the better part of the day arguing with an acquaintance of mine regarding the concept of freedom of religion and gay marriages. He has been stating that the legalization of gay marriage would be an attack on the freedom of individuals to practice their religious beliefs as they see fit. Since trying to talk some sense into him has been as about as fruitless as trying to get water from a stone, I couldn't end the day without putting some thoughts regarding this into words.
First off, let me say that my view of the matter is what I assume most gay men's is. We don't care how we're allowed to get married, as long as we're allowed to do so. I'm not asking for the government to dictate that the Mormon church, the Baptist church, or any other religious organization (especially those who hate us so much) be mandated to performing a union between two people of the same gender, but what I am demanding is that the state be required to perform and recognize such unions. This would effectively put gay marriage into the same category of other such things as gambling, drinking, dancing, and other things that are considered a sin by various religions. Don't want to go to hell? Don't do it, but you've no place to tell me I cant.
At this point, he is stating that a law passed mandating the recognition of such unions would punish religious organizations who refuse to perform them, yet he can not provide me with any evidence that this is the case in places where it is legal already, or any evidence that it will be the case in the event that it becomes recognized.
It feels to me like just more whining that religion isn't able to control and manipulate people like they used to be able to do, and now are grabbing at straws in an effort to be able to maintain control over the lives of those who don't choose to follow their dogmas.
First off, let me say that my view of the matter is what I assume most gay men's is. We don't care how we're allowed to get married, as long as we're allowed to do so. I'm not asking for the government to dictate that the Mormon church, the Baptist church, or any other religious organization (especially those who hate us so much) be mandated to performing a union between two people of the same gender, but what I am demanding is that the state be required to perform and recognize such unions. This would effectively put gay marriage into the same category of other such things as gambling, drinking, dancing, and other things that are considered a sin by various religions. Don't want to go to hell? Don't do it, but you've no place to tell me I cant.
At this point, he is stating that a law passed mandating the recognition of such unions would punish religious organizations who refuse to perform them, yet he can not provide me with any evidence that this is the case in places where it is legal already, or any evidence that it will be the case in the event that it becomes recognized.
It feels to me like just more whining that religion isn't able to control and manipulate people like they used to be able to do, and now are grabbing at straws in an effort to be able to maintain control over the lives of those who don't choose to follow their dogmas.
Monday, April 4, 2011
Why?
Since I'm new to the industry, I'm often confronted by both agencies/studios, and by friends with the question of "Why?" They ask things like why are you going into this, what made you decide this was right for you, how did you come to this, or some type of related question. Of course, many people come to it with some type of preconceived notion such as I'm just that big of a whore, or I'm desperate for money or whatever else, but for all that no one ever expects the real reasons why I do this.
Truth be told, there is no one reason why I'm doing this. There are several, but it really comes down to two main reasons. The first I wanted to talk about is the more secondary reason for joining, and that is since I started into the industry, I have not met one person yet who wasn't completely unlike anyone else you'd meet in the "normal" world. The men and women I've met in porn are more down to earth and less inhibited than any other people I've ever met. It relates to the second reason I'll be talking about, but basically put, they help me to feel comfortable with being myself.
That being said, there's a deeper, more personal reason I do this, and that is to help my self esteem. I know, people say you shouldn't seek outside approval to feel okay about who you are, but then those are the type of people who haven't lived the life I lived. (Here's where it starts to get deep, but don't read it like some typical sob story)
I don't have any memories of my life before age 14, and all I can remember from that point in my life was physical abuse of my adopted father. We were living in the suburbs of Salt Lake City, and he was a religious leader in the Mormon church, and as such, commanded a lot of influence and power in our community, so no one really believed me when I would tell them takes of his abuse and passed off the bruises and such off on just typical rough and tumble behavior of a teenage boy. It wasn't until about this time that I started to fight back and the physical abuse stopped.
This didn't stop him completely, however, and he started from there to beat me down mentally, telling me on a regular basis how stupid I was (this continued up into high school when I was talking 2nd year calculus, physics, and was taking college level art, English, and other courses at the community college while also balancing extracurricular activities in the performing arts after school and maintaining a 3.7 GPA)
I spent so much of my teenage years yearning for acceptance from anyone, but not finding it. As a gay, closeted, abused, Mormon boy, trying to find positive reinforcement was difficult, if not impossible to find. At age 19 I came out, and was kicked out onto the street. It wasn't until then that I started to realize how wrong my family was when it came to issues regarding my worth.
I say all this, not to try to gain your pity, as I've learned to accept this point of my past and have grown from it. I say it merely to provide a background and to sing the praises of this industry. After a scene goes up, I can expect to hear feedback from fans, and so far the positive has outweighed the negative. It is always a huge boost to my day to log onto Twitter and hear the feedback, or log onto Grindr, and have people recognize me and say how hot it was to watch me.
People often speak to how corruptive this industry is to a fragile mind, however, I would argue that it has just as much positive influence on a person as negative, and while I've only had two scenes go live so far (along with 4 cam shows from Jason Sparks' visits) I can already say that from these experiences I feel more empowered, more confident, and more beautiful than I have ever felt in my life, and I have porn to thank for this.
Truth be told, there is no one reason why I'm doing this. There are several, but it really comes down to two main reasons. The first I wanted to talk about is the more secondary reason for joining, and that is since I started into the industry, I have not met one person yet who wasn't completely unlike anyone else you'd meet in the "normal" world. The men and women I've met in porn are more down to earth and less inhibited than any other people I've ever met. It relates to the second reason I'll be talking about, but basically put, they help me to feel comfortable with being myself.
That being said, there's a deeper, more personal reason I do this, and that is to help my self esteem. I know, people say you shouldn't seek outside approval to feel okay about who you are, but then those are the type of people who haven't lived the life I lived. (Here's where it starts to get deep, but don't read it like some typical sob story)
I don't have any memories of my life before age 14, and all I can remember from that point in my life was physical abuse of my adopted father. We were living in the suburbs of Salt Lake City, and he was a religious leader in the Mormon church, and as such, commanded a lot of influence and power in our community, so no one really believed me when I would tell them takes of his abuse and passed off the bruises and such off on just typical rough and tumble behavior of a teenage boy. It wasn't until about this time that I started to fight back and the physical abuse stopped.
This didn't stop him completely, however, and he started from there to beat me down mentally, telling me on a regular basis how stupid I was (this continued up into high school when I was talking 2nd year calculus, physics, and was taking college level art, English, and other courses at the community college while also balancing extracurricular activities in the performing arts after school and maintaining a 3.7 GPA)
I spent so much of my teenage years yearning for acceptance from anyone, but not finding it. As a gay, closeted, abused, Mormon boy, trying to find positive reinforcement was difficult, if not impossible to find. At age 19 I came out, and was kicked out onto the street. It wasn't until then that I started to realize how wrong my family was when it came to issues regarding my worth.
I say all this, not to try to gain your pity, as I've learned to accept this point of my past and have grown from it. I say it merely to provide a background and to sing the praises of this industry. After a scene goes up, I can expect to hear feedback from fans, and so far the positive has outweighed the negative. It is always a huge boost to my day to log onto Twitter and hear the feedback, or log onto Grindr, and have people recognize me and say how hot it was to watch me.
People often speak to how corruptive this industry is to a fragile mind, however, I would argue that it has just as much positive influence on a person as negative, and while I've only had two scenes go live so far (along with 4 cam shows from Jason Sparks' visits) I can already say that from these experiences I feel more empowered, more confident, and more beautiful than I have ever felt in my life, and I have porn to thank for this.
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